Apples and Bananas: Comparison and How Humans Are

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 I need more likes. I need to look like my idol on Instagram. Why can't I look like them, why isn't my life exactly like them? I just want a life that I can tell people about. We all are kiwis, apples, grapes, oranges when we all want to be bananas. 

Comparisons. We all do that, whether about ourselves or about others. Our lives revolve around wanting to be better than what we are. We are never satisfied with who we were made to be at all. Social media blinds its users and makes us think that we have to look a certain way. Especially for young adults and teenagers. 

We are bombarded by what people think we should be. We are constantly compared to each other and other people by parents, teachers, bosses, older friends, coaches, mentors. We believe them and allow them to mold us into the comparisons that they create. 

A good example of this are my parents and the Duggar family. They expected me to court just like their children. They constantly compared me to other children, or how they were when they were growing up. Comparison is one of the reasons why I ended up with the eating and mental disorders that I had back in high school. 

I constantly find myself comparing myself to everyone that I meet. It's almost as if I am analyzing how that person lives and almost envious of how they live and I want my life to mirror that. I realized I was doing this whenever I bought the same sweater as my roommate... yes... I got that from buying a sweater. People wouldn't think that would mean anything, but now in today's world, it does because we want to be like everyone else rather than what God has made us to be. 

You see, God made us to be what He knew He wanted us to be. You know what that is? That's ourselves, God made us so different and wonderful and lovable and beautiful that there is no reason for us to be comparing ourselves to other people.

Why is this so hard? Because we are human. It's in our hearts to be jealous, to be bitter, and to be selfish and want what other people have. But once we understand what God has told us that we are, we see that with freshly cleaned eyes and mentality. 

It took me years, and it still is a struggle to stop comparing myself to other people, but as long as I am satisfied with the level of life that I'm at, then I know that I am enough. 

Next post will be about toxicity and relationships and how they can control your health, both mental and physical. Stay tuned!

And remember, YOU are enough, and YOU are loved. That's all just the way you are too! 

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